It’s My Facebook and I’ll post What I Want To…

I just have to share this story and make a PSA.

Angry “friends” send letter

These “friends” need to just Unfollow or Unfriend so they don’t get all the unwanted updates.  Why obsess and get angry over what someone else posts on THEIR OWN FACEBOOK PAGE??!!  This boggles the mind!

It’s just another example of people who think the world revolves around them and the rest of us need to placate them.  I think not!

In case you’ve been worried about this, or maybe didn’t know, when you unfollow someone, they don’t know.

If you unfriend them, they still won’t know unless…gasp…you pop up on their “People You Might Know” list.  Embarrassing?  Maybe.  Life-shattering?  Not so much.  There’s no banner or pop-up or instant text alert letting them know who unfollowed/unfriended/unliked them.

There are no Facebook tattle-tells waiting to rat you out because you’ve had it with the bazillionth video post about cute cats or the I-started-a-new-business-won’t-you-have-a-party/order-from-me/help-me-become-a-millionaire posts or the I-went-to-Fiji-again-and-you-didn’t posts from your old high school never-was-a-friend-anyway friend.

If they ask you about it directly…as in, face-to-face or maybe by email, THEN you can tell them you were getting overwhelmed/annoyed by all their darling children posts or political posts or “aren’t these cats/dogs/giraffes/iguanas…the cutest??!!” posts (ahem…not that I ever do that).

It’s called boundaries, people.  Say it with me, “Bound-a-ries.”  It’s okay to have them and exercise them.  Alas, most people don’t because they don’t know how.

The simplest way to sum up boundaries is to tell you it’s okay to say “No” if your heart says no or “Yes” if yes.  Or “Maybe.”  Or “I need to think/pray about it.”  Or “You’re making me feel uncomfortable standing so close to me.”  You get the idea?

Be respectful and share your heart or mind with honesty.  Not brutal honesty, as in “we’re sick of all your posts about your kid!”  Being “brutally honest” is just an excuse to vent and rage at others.  How about we try being gracefully honest?

Incidentally, I’m a disciple of Jesus Christ who makes no apologies for my faith.  I believe His word in its entirety.  I’m a pretty far right Conservative Republican bordering on Libertarian.  I also attempt to love and respect those who disagree with me to the best of my ability in whatever situation that may be and really try not to judge.

That doesn’t mean I won’t tell you why I disagree if asked.  If we can’t see eye-to-eye, it’s okay.  We can just agree to disagree respectfully.  If we can’t, that’s okay, too.  I’ll thank you for your opinion and move on.

If anything I share annoys or offends you, feel free to unfollow or unfriend me.  I won’t lose any sleep over it and neither should you.

Blessings,

Mel

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New Year’s Eve Sleepover

My sweet girl wanted to ring in the new year with her friends so we decided to make it a sleepover. This was a last minute decision, but it turned out successfully.

She and I love to entertain and go all out for parties: birthdays, the Super Bowl, Valentine’s, Flag Day. Any reason, really, to have people over and decorate.

We attended a company luncheon at my husband’s office so we were running short on time. We stopped at Hobby Lobby, decided on a color scheme and bought just a few items: curling ribbon, plates, napkins, and two sheets of matching glitter paper.

If money were no object, I could easily go overboard for every function. Thank the Holy Spirit for keeping me in check!

My sweet girl and my hubby (her sweet daddy) helped her decorate the table and the little tree in our dining room.  I’m so glad he willingly helps with a joyful heart whenever I ask.  I need to work on that trait.  (My sweet boy was waiting for dad to take him to his first New Year’s Eve party at a friend’s house.  We have spent almost every New Year’s Eve together as a family since they were born.)

Don’t you like how my decorations match our ribbon and plates?!  I did that on purpose.  I’ve really been working on this “use what you have” decorating this Christmas since finances have been extremely limited.  I was excited to remember I had these light blue and silver ornaments.  And those chargers were a great deal at Michael’s on December 1st. They were 99 cents each! I’ve wanted chargers for years now.

On the way home, I decided to surprise my sweet girl and let her make cupcakes.  We love cupcakes and they are the perfect, easy “cake” to have at a party.  We found blue food coloring and pearlescent silver candies among our cake decorating supplies.  I made these cake toppers with my stamping supplies.  I thought the stamp reading “the best is yet to be” was perfect for friends ringing in the new year.

The last item I was determined to make was a big 2013 with the glitter paper.  After searching for number templates online, figuring out how to create and print a mirror image in Word, tracing, cutting and taping–two hours later–success!  I took several photos, but this one with natural light from this morning is my favorite.  (Plus, you can’t see the tape as easily.)

The girls had fun…ate lots of sugar, talked, laughed, watched movies, stayed up late, woke up early, got all decked out in their blinged-out jeans and went shopping.  So far…a great start to the new year!

Thank you, God, for the creative gifts you’ve given me that allow me to save my husband’s hard-earned money and create an event others enjoy.

Here’s to you in 2013!  Wishing you many blessings!!

Mel

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January 1, 2013 · 10:54 am

Encouraging My Teenagers

“Therefore encourage one another and build up one another….”  1 Thess. 5:11

The Holy Spirit prompted me to encourage my teenagers today.  I was in the midst of carrying laundry when He gave me the idea to write them notes and place them on their pillows.  My tendency is to “wait for free time” to do things like this, but then I forget and weeks later it hits me–oh yeah, I was gonna do _____ (fill in the blank).

So I threw the load in the washer, grabbed a notepad I use for my grocery list, and sat down at my dining room table.  As I got started I thought, surely there are other moms like me who mean well, but get caught up in life and forget their kids need encouragement, too.  I know this to be true because my best friend and I talk about this often, especially as we watch our teenagers grow toward adulthood.

Encouraging others is not hard for me.  I can almost immediately see something to encourage in others; it’s one of my spiritual gifts from the Lord.  I have to admit, however, it has been more challenging since my kids reached their teenage years.  The busyness of life gets in the way and, sometimes, so do the attitudes.  And I’m not just referring to theirs.

This got me thinking about why we encourage one another.  Do we only focus on actions?  Do we focus on appearance?  Or do we focus on character, gifts, talents, etc.?  It’s easy to encourage actions and appearance; we can see that more readily.  But what message are we sending our teens when we only encourage what they do or how they look?

We make it hard for them to not become focused on performance and looks to earn approval.  We forget how much more they need to be encouraged for their character and correct heart attitudes.  That was the very idea the Lord gave me:  to encourage their character and attitude.  They certainly hear enough from me about their bad attitude.  Shouldn’t I spend more time praising their good attitudes?

For example, my son has been getting up at 5:45 every morning for soccer since the second week of school.  At first, he was running with the cross country team before soccer practice.  Then he started a performance course in October.   Including all this, is his first class of the day.  Can you guess what it is?  That’s right, it’s soccer.  So, he spends 2-3 hours, five days a week, working out and practicing.  He also has been playing in a recreational soccer league since September.  Apart from the very occasional, “Man, I’m tired,” he never complains.  (It probably also helps that he has been getting leaner and building muscle like crazy, which he often likes to point out.)

I have been so proud of him lately, but I also realized it’s not really in his character to complain.  Philippians 2:14 tells us to do all things without grumbling or complaining.  He has been an example of this as he has adjusted to so many new things this school year:  going from homeschool to public high school, playing soccer for fun to playing soccer for his school and his future (can you say scholarship?), going from no homework to homework almost every night.

Don’t get me wrong; he still has his moments of complaining about doing his chores or cleaning his room like most teenagers.  But he usually does it with humor and eventually gets the work done.  Humor, by the way, goes a long way toward urging our teens to do anything far more than nagging or yelling.  The same is true of our husbands, but that’s a different post.

Hebrews 3:13 tells us, “But encourage one another day after day, as long as it is still called ‘Today,’ so that none of you will be hardened by the deceitfulness of sin.”  Remember a few paragraphs above when I wondered why we encourage one another?  Hebrews gives us the answer.  If we don’t encourage or inspire our children every day, they may become hardened or stubborn by the deception of sin.  We make it easier for them to become entangled in sin when we don’t encourage them.  Whoa!  That’s pretty heavy.  May it never be true of me.

Be encouraged that each day His mercies are new and you can begin again.

Blessings,

Mel

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