I just have to share this story and make a PSA.
These “friends” need to just Unfollow or Unfriend so they don’t get all the unwanted updates. Why obsess and get angry over what someone else posts on THEIR OWN FACEBOOK PAGE??!! This boggles the mind!
It’s just another example of people who think the world revolves around them and the rest of us need to placate them. I think not!
In case you’ve been worried about this, or maybe didn’t know, when you unfollow someone, they don’t know.
If you unfriend them, they still won’t know unless…gasp…you pop up on their “People You Might Know” list. Embarrassing? Maybe. Life-shattering? Not so much. There’s no banner or pop-up or instant text alert letting them know who unfollowed/unfriended/unliked them.
There are no Facebook tattle-tells waiting to rat you out because you’ve had it with the bazillionth video post about cute cats or the I-started-a-new-business-won’t-you-have-a-party/order-from-me/help-me-become-a-millionaire posts or the I-went-to-Fiji-again-and-you-didn’t posts from your old high school never-was-a-friend-anyway friend.
If they ask you about it directly…as in, face-to-face or maybe by email, THEN you can tell them you were getting overwhelmed/annoyed by all their darling children posts or political posts or “aren’t these cats/dogs/giraffes/iguanas…the cutest??!!” posts (ahem…not that I ever do that).
It’s called boundaries, people. Say it with me, “Bound-a-ries.” It’s okay to have them and exercise them. Alas, most people don’t because they don’t know how.
The simplest way to sum up boundaries is to tell you it’s okay to say “No” if your heart says no or “Yes” if yes. Or “Maybe.” Or “I need to think/pray about it.” Or “You’re making me feel uncomfortable standing so close to me.” You get the idea?
Be respectful and share your heart or mind with honesty. Not brutal honesty, as in “we’re sick of all your posts about your kid!” Being “brutally honest” is just an excuse to vent and rage at others. How about we try being gracefully honest?
Incidentally, I’m a disciple of Jesus Christ who makes no apologies for my faith. I believe His word in its entirety. I’m a pretty far right Conservative Republican bordering on Libertarian. I also attempt to love and respect those who disagree with me to the best of my ability in whatever situation that may be and really try not to judge.
That doesn’t mean I won’t tell you why I disagree if asked. If we can’t see eye-to-eye, it’s okay. We can just agree to disagree respectfully. If we can’t, that’s okay, too. I’ll thank you for your opinion and move on.
If anything I share annoys or offends you, feel free to unfollow or unfriend me. I won’t lose any sleep over it and neither should you.
Blessings,
Mel
The Eclectic Woman 